First time I heard about this book was when I saw a youtube video where Iyanla her self spoke about it.It was back is 2012 when I added it to my reading list just because – it was a personal development book that helped someone get through a hard time in her life.
This year,my urge to read this book increased after remembering that Iyanla spoke about this book mostly on how its based on her life after loosing her daughter. Gemmia,Iyanla’s daughter would be another main character if this was a movie.
The main reason I wanted to read this book now is because this year I have been taking notice of a lot of things in my life one being how I have been handling loosing my Dad and how that affected me all this time. Thank God two friends wanted to get me this book after sharing how and why I needed it and was looking for it on the 2nd july post.Thank you veronica :-*
where do I even start?
In this book,Iyanla talks about all the issues in her life from childhood to adulthood.All the occurrences in her life that left the pieces . From being raped, having trust issues with all the men in her life, a dysfunctional marriage and more.
“I now realise that lives fall apart when they need to be rebuilt. Lives fall apart then the foundation upon which they were built needs to be relaid. Lives fall apart, not because God is punishing us for what we have or have not done.Lives fall apart because the need to. They need to because they weren’t built the right way in he first place” Iyanla Vanzant
She also highlights her bad relationships with the men in her life and how she settled for so much emotional, physical, and mental suffering because she longed for love and acceptance that she did not receive as a child. All the bad that was brought up about her by her grand mother resulted into her need for validation and acceptance from other people because she felt she wasn’t good enough to be loved.
“The problem is the personal lie. everyone has one: It is a story that we tell ourselves about how who we are and what we do and do not deserve in life” Iyanla Vanzant
“Few of us understand how hurtful it is to be judged and criticised when you are on a learning curve in the midst of a healing crisis” Iyanla Vanzant
On being able to stand for herself after being pushed to be who she wasn’t when someone else felt thats the image of her they had and should be portrayed. The time it took her to finally be able to stand for her self and how she finally did it.Her financial struggles and more all from a very honest point.
For the most part of this book,I love how it has highlighted her mother – daughter relationship with Gemmia. Having wanted to abort her during her pregnancy to the day Gemmia dies of cancer and how she finds out what Gemmia thought about her through the journals she kept.As she described it “it was the first time in my life that I had such an honest and intimate view of the way another person saw me”
Also in this book Iyanla being the spiritual woman she is,talks about everything in relation to it .This book has been a great reminder to me on my spiritual life and how important it is. It has also made me realise the areas in my life that need to be worked on.Lessons based on self esteem,self love , growth and wellness all taught from a personal experience of one of the world’s renowned life coach and writer.
Who should read this book?
A Mother, Any lady from the age of 18 and above, a Grand mother, A father, A brother, and anyone else looking to become a better person and treat others better.
This book passed my expectations,it was more than I expected it to be and I will now go looking for more books by Iyanla Vanzat.The most honest and realist of any personal development book drawn from someone’s real life experience. Now in the list of 10 best books I have read.
Currently looking for suggestions for books to read, mostly personal development, business and financial books, African literature and any other bomb books you guys have and are reading.Please leave your suggestions on the comment section below.xx